The S.M.A.R.T. Method: A Guide to Achieving Your Goals in Polygynous Relationships

Industrious, successful women at work in their organization.

We (women) live life so quickly! Look at your daily routine, do you think about what you need to do or is it something that has become second nature to you?

It’s so important to fulfill your role as the matriarch and one thing that some of us forget to keep in mind is taking care of ourselves as well. How can we keep a healthy balance if we are not practicing self-care? From my own experience, I will say you will see a huge difference when you actively practice self-care and meet the expectations as the matriarch of your family.

A part of self-care is your spiritual growth along with a well-balanced mentality. This is where your journaling will come in handy. For those who are skilled writers or may not have the slightest clue as to where to start and those in between,  it’s one of the most effective forms of expression and a way to become in tune with one’s truest thoughts.

There was a point in my life where I felt lost. Like my identity was unknown to me.  Who was looking back at me in the mirror was no longer representing me when I just took the time to analyze myself at that moment in time. I realized, what I considered fun was not fun at all. Events I would do the most to get to weren’t my cup of tea. I had to admit that I was a selective people-pleaser.

“Honey, Keep It Real” is your notebook for embracing authenticity and following your heart.

I found this out by one day deciding I would start a journal (not the first time I have done this), but this time I decided to commit to writing down my thoughts no matter how minimal. Now journaling is not a “dear diary” teen activity I’m replicating in adulthood. I wrote down how my workday went, and what went well or what did not. Next, I found myself writing about how my home life was going. Then I had a sudden insight, what is something I have been avoiding and what are my deepest thoughts regarding it? It was during this positively life-altering breakthrough that the “Honey, Keep It Real” journal was born. 

Wow, I truly experienced a paradigm shift. Self-discovery truly blossomed allowing me to acquire insight into myself. In this process, I learned what I had been holding on to which was unacceptable for my purpose to grow toward a deeper balance within.

Each day I would take time to write down more to reveal, as well as release hurt, pain, feelings of inadequacy, and more, from as far back as childhood up to adulthood.

The irony about TRUTH is once it’s exposed by the giver, all receiving ends have to accept it. There is no way to walk around, ignore, or try to discredit it. Darkness (hidden intent) ALWAYS comes to light. The truth shall set you free. What an exhilarating experience!! Being aware of who you truly are, helps you to not repress anything inside and prepares you for any new developing emotions that need to be processed healthily.

I still do journaling, which helps with my inner growth! Living works hand in hand with growing daily! New ideas, new ways of living, spiritual maturity, etc., come along with the benefits of utilizing a journal to process thoughts from deep within. The “Honey, Keep It Real” journal is the perfect tool to assist you in capturing your deepest and truest thoughts on paper. This exercise also allows you to balance emotions along with logical thinking. When you see your thoughts written down it helps to better analyze or critically think about them. Organizing your thoughts in your journal is an impactful way to free space in your mind and to reflect healthily.

Try it out and you will not be disappointed!! 

Here are some ideas if you are looking for topics to assist with this journey: 

  • Things you want to improve 
  • Why do you want to begin journaling? 
  • What do you want to express that you have not had a chance to?
  • What are you grateful for? 
  • Reflections and Revelations

For those who may not know where exactly to start, may I suggest using the SMART method to set a goal to use the “Honey, Keep It Real” journal for your purpose?

Setting goals and working towards them is an essential aspect of personal growth and building successful polygynous relationships. However, navigating the complexities of polygyny requires a strategic approach that encompasses clarity, focus, and effective planning. In this article, we will introduce you to the S.M.A.R.T. method—an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. By applying this method, you can set and achieve your goals in polygynous relationships with clarity and purpose. Let’s explore each component of the S.M.A.R.T. method and how it can benefit you in your journey.

1. Specific:

Setting specific goals is crucial for providing clear direction and focus. Identify the specific areas or aspects within your polygynous relationships that you want to improve or work on. Whether it’s enhancing communication, establishing shared values, or promoting emotional well-being, being specific about your goals allows you to create a roadmap for success.

2. Measurable:

Measurable goals enable you to track your progress and evaluate your achievements. Define specific metrics or criteria that will help you assess your progress toward your goals. This could include tracking the frequency of open communication, measuring the quality of emotional connections, or monitoring the implementation of shared values within your family. Having measurable goals provides a sense of accountability and allows you to celebrate milestones along the way.

3. Achievable:

While it’s essential to set ambitious goals, it’s equally important to ensure they are realistic and attainable. Consider your current circumstances, resources, and capabilities when setting your goals. Assess any potential challenges and develop strategies to overcome them. By setting achievable goals, you create a sense of motivation and confidence that fuels your progress in polygynous relationships.

4. Relevant:

Ensure that your goals align with the unique dynamics and needs of your polygynous relationships. Consider the values, aspirations, and challenges that are specific to your family unit. Your goals should be relevant to fostering harmony, growth, and fulfillment within the polygynous context. By focusing on relevant goals, you prioritize actions that have a meaningful impact on your relationships.

5. Time-bound:

Setting a timeline for your goals provides a sense of urgency and structure. Define specific timeframes or deadlines for achieving your goals. This creates a sense of commitment and helps you allocate your time and resources effectively. Breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable milestones within a time-bound framework allows for incremental progress and a sense of accomplishment.

Final Thoughts –

The S.M.A.R.T. method offers a strategic framework for setting and achieving goals in polygynous relationships. By adopting this approach, you gain clarity, focus, and a sense of direction that empowers you to navigate the complexities of polygyny with purpose. Remember to be specific, set measurable goals, ensure their achievability and relevance, and establish time-bound milestones. Applying the S.M.A.R.T. method in your journey of personal growth and building successful polygynous relationships will help you cultivate a thriving and harmonious divine family unit. 

Embrace the power of goal-setting, and join us at to explore further resources, support, and guidance on your remarkable polygynous journey. Together, we can achieve our goals and create fulfilling and balanced relationships within our polygynous families.

Happy Writing and Inner Growth!


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